|Posted by melanella on April 3, 2017 at 12:10 AM|
"Your Girl Gaydar Sucks. Let me help you."
- The title tagline for kick-ass queer lady blog, Effing Dykes.
Photo of Krista Burton from afterellen.com
For anyone who doesn't already know, Effing Dykes is an award-winning blog gorgeously and wisely written by Krista Burton (kristavadora on Insta). I've been a devoted fan of her blog since my own coming out days (circa 2010/11 or so). I came for the girl gaydar skill testing questions, I stayed for the sexy and scintillating stories from Krista's (and her friend's) adventures in lady dating.
Unfortunately, Effing Dykes went on an impossibly long hiatus in March of 2013 which more or less crushed my soul. Where was I supposed to get all of my queer-lady dating tips now? What would become of my love life now that I was left to my own devices? Without her insights and guidance, I was left to figure out for myself who was queer and who was not at a time when plaid shirts and asymmetrical haircuts were becoming more and more mainstream.
The absence of Effing Dykes was profoundly felt in my young lesbo life as it was such a resource to me at a time when I needed it most. I read and re-read every single post she had made prior to this hiatus while checking back from time to time to see if she had returned. She never said this break would be permanent...
Just after New Years 2017, I happened upon an article posted by the NY Times written in a voice I felt like I knew. The tone was so familiar, the insights so on-point that I knew immediately who I was listening to. Discovering Krista's Hipsters Broke My Gaydar felt like bumping into an old friend in a an unfamiliar city. After reading it, I rushed over to her blogspot and saw that at long last, Krista and Effing Dykes had finally returned!
Sigh of relief = An understatement.
I've been struggling romantically of late and cannot express how grateful I am to have this resource back in my life.
I want to apologize for not introducing you to Effing Dykes sooner, but I have now and that's all that really matters.
Why now and not back in January?
Her most recent post has shaken my universe, you guys. Please please please do yourselves a favour and read it. Like, right now.
Welcome back, Effing Dykes!